Improve your body image to increase confidence and make better decisions.
Last week I wrote a post about how body image affects our decisions. How you feel about your body is important to your well-being. If you feel good about your body, you’ll probably feel good about yourself. This can help you make more informed and confident decisions. If you feel bad about your body, it can hurt how you feel about yourself and your life. So how can you improve body image?
Understanding Body Image
Body image refers to how we perceive, think, and feel about our bodies. It can be positive, negative, or a mix of both, and it changes depending on various factors. It’s influenced by your self-esteem and personality. The world around us also plays a role, media, peers, and society all dictate what is “acceptable”.
The Impact of Negative Body Image
Body image isn’t something that just happens. Lots of different things affect it throughout your life, like the media, your culture, and your personal experiences.
Media
The media shows us pictures of what bodies are supposed to look like, but these pictures are usually fake and impossible to achieve. This can make you feel bad about your own body. There is hope, thanks to the body positivity movement we are starting to see a little less of this.
Social media encourages you to compare yourself to others. As we compare our bodies to others; it often leads to feelings of lower self-esteem.
This is all worsened when we see ads for products that promise to change or enhance our appearance. It reinforces the idea that our bodies are not good enough as they are. There has been a small shift towards ads focusing on health and well-being instead of size or appearance.
Culture
Different cultures and generations have different ideas about what is beautiful. This can make us feel pressure to look a certain way. If we don’t, it can make us feel bad about their bodies.
Gender roles and expectations can also influence body image. For example, women may feel pressure to be thin and delicate. While men may feel pressure to be muscular and strong.
Personal Experiences
There are a variety of personal experiences that can impact body image. Past experiences, like childhood bullying or trauma significantly increases the odds of someone having a body image issue.
Having a low self-esteem or an illness (even mental illness) can also negatively impact body image.
It’s important to understand how things like the media, culture, and personal experiences affect how you see your body. This can help you challenge ideas about what is beautiful and feel better about your own body.
Tips for Improving Body Image
Just as there are a bunch of things impacting your body image, there are also things that improve it. Here are some tips to help you improve your body image.
Challenge Negative Thoughts
When you are having bad thoughts about your body, try to think about them differently. Be kinder to yourself.
Recognize:
Pay attention to how you talk to yourself about your body. Notice any negative thoughts that make you feel bad about how you look.
Challenge:
Ask yourself if these thoughts are based on facts or opinions. Are they helpful or harmful? Do they align with your values? Are they contributing to your overall well-being?
These thoughts are usually exaggerated or wrong. For example, thinking “I’m too fat” could be a mean thought based on one thing you don’t like about yourself. To fight this thought, remember that your weight doesn’t say anything about who you are, and that your body can do amazing things.
Replace:
Replace negative thoughts with positive statements about your body. Focus on its strengths, functionality, and the things you appreciate about it. For instance, instead of thinking “My thighs are too big,” you could say, “My legs are strong and carry me through life.”
Say these positive things about your body often to feel better about how you look.
Focus:
Think about what your body can do, not just how it looks. Be thankful for what your body lets you do, whether it’s dancing, running, playing sports, or just living life.
Practice:
Be kind to yourself. Everyone feels bad about something about themselves sometimes. It’s okay to have bad thoughts sometimes, but don’t let them make you feel bad about who you are.
Seek:
If you keep having bad thoughts about your body, you may want talk to a therapist or counselor. They can help you learn to think healthier thoughts and deal with your feelings.
Overcoming negative thoughts takes time and work. But you can learn to feel better about it if you keep working at it.
Practice Self-Compassion
Being kind to oneself is crucial for overall well-being and mental health. It involves treating yourself with compassion, understanding, and acceptance, just as you would treat a friend or loved one.
Being kind to yourself doesn’t mean you can do whatever you want or making excuses for mistakes. It means that you accept your flaws and still love yourself. It’s about being understanding and kind to yourself, especially when things are hard, or you make mistakes.
Self-Compassionate Thoughts
- Acknowledging Common Humanity: “Everyone makes mistakes. I’m not alone in this.”
- Normalizing Difficult Emotions: “It’s okay to feel sad/angry/disappointed. This is a normal human experience.”
- Offering Yourself Kindness: “I’m doing the best I can right now. I deserve compassion and understanding.”
- Challenging Self-Criticism: “Instead of judging myself harshly, I can learn from this experience and move forward.”
- Focusing on Strengths: “I have many strengths and positive qualities. I can overcome this challenge.”
- Practicing Mindfulness: “I am present in this moment, observing my thoughts and feelings without judgment.”
Self-Compassionate Actions
- Self-Care: Take a relaxing bath, spend time in nature, listen to calming music, etc…
- Speak Kindly to Yourself: Talk to yourself like you would talk to a friend. Be kind and supportive, not mean or critical.
- Seek Support: Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist for support and connection.
- Prioritize Rest and Relaxation: Allow yourself time to recharge.
- Forgive Yourself: Recognize that mistakes are part of being human and let go of self-blame.
- Celebrate Small Victories: Acknowledge your successes, no matter how small.
- Practice Mindfulness: Be aware of your thoughts and emotions.
By being kind to yourself every day, you can make yourself stronger, feel better, and learn to love yourself more. Remember, being kind to yourself takes time and practice. It’s worth it because it will make you happier and healthier.
Limit Media Consumption
The media, like social media, ads, TV, and magazines, impacts how we see beauty and our bodies. It often shows us unrealistic and impossible ideals, which can make us feel both good and bad about ourselves.
Even though the media can hurt how we feel about our bodies, it can also help us feel better. If we understand how the media affects us and think critically about what it shows us, we can avoid feeling bad about our bodies and learn to love them. We should support media that promotes body positivity and different body types, and challenge media that shows us unrealistic beauty standards.
Creating a Positive Media Environment
Follow Body-Positive Accounts
Look for and follow social media accounts, blogs, and websites that encourage you to love your body and show different kinds of beauty. These places often share stories, positive messages, and helpful resources to make you feel good about yourself.
Unfollow or Mute Negative Accounts
If you tend to compare yourself to others online, stop following or hide those accounts. You choose what you see, so look at things that make you feel good about yourself.
Seet Out Divers Accounts
Follow accounts that show different kinds of bodies. This can help you see that beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, and colors, and that it’s not what society says it is.
Engage in Positive Communities
Join online or real-life groups that focus on loving your body, yourself, and your mental health. These places can make you feel supported, encouraged, and like you belong.
Limit Exposure to Unrealistic Ideals
Limit the time you spend looking at media that shows you unrealistic beauty standards. Choose to look at things that make you feel good about your body and yourself.
Curate Your Feed
Use tools on social media like “hide,” “unfollow,” or “mute” to control what you see. This helps you avoid posts that make you feel bad or compare yourself to others.
Be Critical of Media Messages
Think critically about what the media says about beauty and body image. Ask yourself why they’re showing you those things, and challenge anything that seems fake or harmful.
Focus on Health and Well-being
Don’t just focus on how you look on the outside, focus on how you feel on the inside. Follow accounts that encourage healthy living, taking care of yourself, and mental health awareness.
Celebrate Your Own Unique Beauty
Love your body and appreciate that it’s unique. Remember that beauty is different for everyone.
Support Body Positive Brands and Creators
Spend your time and money on brands and people who show that all bodies are good and beautiful. This can make the media we see a better place.
By choosing what you see and hear in the media and surrounding yourself with positive things, you can create a space that helps you accept yourself and feel good about your body and mind.
Focus on Health, Not Appearance
Stop trying to look perfect and focus on healthy habits that make you feel good. True well-being isn’t just about looks, it’s about your body, mind, and feelings.
- Nourish Your Body: Instead of strict diets, eat healthy foods that give you energy and keep you healthy. Enjoy a variety of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins, and healthy fats.
- Move for Joy: Do activities you like, like dancing, hiking, swimming, or playing sports. Exercise should be fun, not something you do to punish yourself for how you look.
- Rest and Recharge: Get enough sleep, relax, and manage stress. Sleep is important for your body and mind to rest and recharge.
- Practice Mindfulness: Be mindful and kind to yourself. Accept your body and appreciate what it can do. Avoid saying negative things about yourself.
- Embrace Your Individuality: Love your body for its unique shape, size, and features. Remember that there are many different ways to be beautiful.
- Focus on Function: Focus on what your body can do, not just how it looks. Be thankful for its ability to move, breathe, create, and enjoy life.
- Seek Support: Spend time with positive people who lift you up. Talk to friends, family, or professionals who can help you on your journey to well-being.
Surround Yourself with Supportive People
The people you spend time with are important for your happiness. They can affect how you think, feel, and act. Having people who support you is important for feeling good about your body and yourself. Here are some ways to find people who lift you up and make you feel good:
Online Communities:
Body-Positive Social Media Groups: Join Facebook groups and use hashtags on Instagram and Twitter to connect with people who support body positivity.
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Online Forums: Take part in online forums that focus on loving your body, yourself, and mental health. Share your stories, find support, and learn from others.
Virtual Support Groups: Many organizations offer online support groups for people struggling with body image or eating disorders. These groups create a safe space to connect with others and get professional help.
In-Person Communities:
Body-Positive Meetups: Find local body-positive meetups or events in your area. These events give you the chance to meet new people who support body positivity and make friends.
Fitness Classes and Groups: Join fitness classes or groups that focus on health and well-being, not just on how you look. Find instructors who encourage body acceptance and inclusivity.
Therapy or Support Groups: Think about joining a therapy group or support group that helps people with body image or self-esteem. These groups give you a safe space to share your experiences and get help from a therapist or facilitator.
Additional Tips:
Reach Out to Friends and Family: Talk to your loved ones about how you’re trying to love your body and accept yourself. Let them know how they can help you and be open to their support.
Seek Out Mentors: Connect with people who inspire you and have a positive body image. Their guidance and support can be very helpful to you.
Volunteer or Get Involved in Activism: Think about volunteering for organizations that promote body positivity or getting involved in activism related to body image and self-acceptance. This can help you meet people who think like you and make a positive change.
Engage in Activities You Enjoy
Doing things, you enjoy is important for taking care of yourself and feeling good. It’s a way to show who you are, learn new things, and connect with what you love. Here’s why it matters and how to start:
How to Get Started:
- Explore Your Interests: What activities did you enjoy as a child or things you’ve always wanted to try?
- Experiment: Don’t be afraid to try new things. Take a class, join a club, or simply explore different options to see what sparks your interest.
- Make Time: Schedule a time for your hobbies, even if it’s just a few minutes each day.
- Don’t Be Afraid to Fail: Remember, hobbies are meant to be fun and enjoyable. Don’t pressure yourself to be perfect.
- Connect with Others: Share your hobbies with friends and family or join groups of like-minded individuals.
No matter what you like, there are many things you can do that make you happy. Find what you love, connect with others who share your interests, and make time for activities that make you feel good.
Body image can be affected by many things, including how you feel about yourself, what you see in the media, your culture, and your own experiences. If you don’t like your body, it can make you feel bad about yourself and even lead to mental health problems.
To feel better about your body, you can try to change negative thoughts, be kind to yourself, spend less time on social media, focus on being healthy, and spend time with people who support you. Doing things, you enjoy and seeing positive things online can also help.
Remember, improving your body image is a journey, not a race. Start small, celebrate your wins, and be kind to yourself along the way. You’ve got this!
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